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Pear Flair on the go – now added to Bloglovin’

Pear Flair on the go – now added to Bloglovin’

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When grey or blue just won’t do – 5 tips for making the corporate look your own

When grey or blue just won’t do – 5 tips for making the corporate look your own

Job interview day. You want to look smart. It’s a conservative establishment so you want to look as though you will toe the line. But you don’t want to get lost in the crowd either. Or you might not actually own anything conservative! What do […]

Walk It Off – how to wear high heels comfortably

Walk It Off – how to wear high heels comfortably

Stilettos. Those brutal match sticks we’ve all tottered around in, looking gorgeous on the outside and feeling cursed on the inside. Blisters, burning, balancing and, for some of us, a fear that the heel might just break off. So we tried wedges, kitten heels and court shoes to get that extra bit of height, without the agony. But the style of heel didn’t change the fact that is was still a heel, so the pain remained.

We know that our bodies aren’t designed to walk on tip-toe all day, and yet we wear high heels. Whether it’s for the look, the strut or the height, many women love their heels. I do too. But as someone on the heavier side and with wide feet, I’ve found wearing heels to cause not just blisters but the feeling of my metatarsal area being on fire, reducing my strut to a crippled wobble. So to help you in your determination to wear illogical but beautiful footwear, here’s my review of the most common accessories to give a helping hand to your flaming feet.

How to wear heels comfortably

Full ball/toe pads

This was the first solution I tried and they are still in use. It’s simply extra cushioning that you place over your toes and the ball of your foot, like a really tiny padded sock. They’re simple and can be washing in the machine (in a delicates bag so they don’t get lost). They stay in place all day and don’t cause any friction on the skin. However, the mesh over the top of the foot can be a bit long so they might be visible in low-cut shoes, and the bulk of the padding might cramp your toe space. But in wedge or heeled boots they are very comfortable.

Thong-style ball/toe pads

Exactly like the pads above, these are additional fabric cushioning under the feet. The flip-flop style means that they are more likely to be invisible in low-cut shoes. However I’ve never found one with padding as thick as the full toe pads, so they might not help much inside a super high heel.

Stick on flowers

I read great reviews about these flower- or toe-shaped stick on pads, as if wearing these would end foot pain forever! Sorry to burst your bubble – or blister – but they don’t. Think of these like a velvety version of bath stickers. Yes, they do stop you from sliding around in your shoes so if friction is your main problem they could suit you fine. If the weight and pressure is also a concern, then you won’t get as much relief as you might hope.

Gel soles (flat)

I paid 3-10 times more for these than each of the other items and immediately regretted it. Full gel soles feel like little waterbeds under your feet. In flats it creates an uneasy wobbling feeling and in heels the gel bunches under your toes, feeling lumpy and taking up too much space. Plus they can be hard to cut to size without making a sticky mess of it.

Metatarsal pads with toe loop

I was quite excited to try these as they look as though they would avoid the issues that the full gel soles had. To a great extent, they did. There was less movement that a full gel sole, but enough that the shoes didn’t feel too tight. Unfortunately for me, there was too much movement for the toe loop to handle and it broke. However they did work so they are worth trying out.

Metatarsal mittens

Not sure what these are called. They are biggest of the gel options. These slip-ons consist of a thick gel pad inside a short lycra toe-less sock thing and is the closest you’ll get to walking on mini mattresses. They are wonderful! But like the full fabric pads the sock design is quite bulky and too broad for most low-cut shoes, and like the toe loops there is a bit too much movement. When I wear these I hold them in place with a bit of sticking plaster under the big toe otherwise it blisters.

Gel soles with arch support

When you see these, you’ll think you wasted your money. They are tiny! At first I thought it was a sizing issue, but they really are meant to be that small. It’s a stick-on insole that doesn’t fill the whole inner sole. Instead, it gives extra padding just to the key areas of heel, arch and ball-of-foot. These funny little mini-soles have become my favourite! By supporting the arch the body weight is more evenly distributed over the foot, so there is less pressure on the ball.

The dumbest, but best trick of all

When I read about this trick, I thought it stupid. I thought it over and still thought it was stupid. Then I decided that since it was free I may as well try it.

OMFG it works: the tape method

Toe taping for reduced pain in feet

Get some sturdy sticking plaster. The fabric style is very useful for this. Tape toes 3 and 4 together. Wear your heels and be amazed!! Seriously! Our feet has a nerve that runs between these two toes and when we wear heels, there is extra pressure on that nerve. By taping the toes together there is less strain on that nerve and your feet will resist our self-inflicted torture for longer. Combine this trick with any of the pads above and you’ll be able to keep your strut going all day long!


Remember to pamper your feet when you get home. They put up with a lot!

How TV stylists don’t understand ‘style’

How TV stylists don’t understand ‘style’

Don’t get me started on stylists. I remember watching some makeover show, and in the end every single curvy woman was wearing black and grey. It was all about subtle colours, “minimising” and distracting the eye from “problem areas”. Stylists such as those particular presenters […]

Whose A-Line is it anyway?

Whose A-Line is it anyway?

Any time a stylist or magazine editor does a write up about how to dress a pear shape, there is always one major piece of advice: wear A-line. What is A-Line clothing? An item of clothing is considered to be A-Line if it has an […]

Which suits suit curvy women?

Which suits suit curvy women?

It’s inspiring to see women unite over shared values and good attire. #PantsuitNation became a trend across the US in the run-up to the election, and for good reason: US politics is full of passionate people and Hillary’s pantsuits are pyjamas you can work to work. That’s a good combination for a trend.

Whether you want the promote gender equity in corporate wear, or you just want to be comfy at work, the pantsuit meets your needs. But how do you find one that suits your curvy body?


Secretary Clinton Waves Goodbye to Quito, Ecuador (4686571308) (cropped)Pyjama cut

Casual straight-leg or loose-fit trousers, boxy longline top.

Thanks to Hillary Clinton, this style has become the standard when anyone says “pantsuit”. Once upon a time you could get these suits in a pattern, but now it’s about solid colours.

Flicks and flares

Pleated trousers with a slight bootleg, fitted jacket with a flare to the cuff and possibly the waist, giving a peplum effect.

For this look, think Victoria Beckham or Celine Dion. You will see a lot of ladies striding around shiny commercial skyscrapers. This suit is the uniform of sexy power-dressing.

Sneaky culottesYves St Laurent le smoking at deYoung Museum San Francisco

Mid- or full-length culottes, open blazer. Suits don’t have to be stuffy.

You can blend your bohemian sentiments with your corporate job and glide through the office with this flowy, semi-casual look.

Fully fitted

Slim or skinny fit trousers, longer fitted buttoned-up blazer.

Work a slight military vibe. The precision of the lines, the perfectly aligned buttons. It might even be double-breasted. This conservative look can be accessorised for power-dressing or comfort.


  • “I’m in a curvy mood” – Flicks and flare. Work those curves and own it!
  • “I’m in a walking tall mood” – Fully fitted. Strut!
  • “I’m in bold mood” – Sneaky culottes. Get noticed!
  • “I’m in a balanced mood” – Pyjama cut. Cruise through your day with ease!


If you still don’t think the suit is working for you, find out more about how to accessorise a suit, matching heels to trousers, and how to get height without torturing your feet. (posts to come – check back soon!)

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